The following takes a brief look at his Holiness’s Lifestyle, the details of which have been narrated from People around him and have been published In books such as "Imam Reza (A.S.) and life" written by "Hojat al-Islam Mahdi Gholam Ali" and "Charter of life according to Imam Reza (A.S.)" written by "Mohammad Bagher Pour Amini". Paying attention to Imam Reza’s way of life and using it as a model, can serve as the solution to numerous problems that affect families today.
Do not yell at your family members!
In the book "Imam Reza (A.S.) and the life", there is a part about a maidservant who talks about her experience while serving at Imam Reza’s house:
“When Imam Reza (A.S.) arrived at Khorasan, Ma’mun offered me to him as a servant. Imam's house was very plain. In his house, there were no signs of luxurious facilities one can find in a palace. I was used to the mundane, so it was difficult for me to live according to the tenets of Imam’s simple life. However, I learned a lot about the spiritual side of life in his house. Imam Reza (A.S.) had assigned a woman to educate us; she woke us up at midnights in order for us to say our prayers. I remember well that in Imam Reza’s house (A.S.), no one was allowed to yell at others or to raise his/her voice, not even the elders. Imam himself always spoke to people with great gentleness and kindness.
Respect the children!
I was the special scrivener in the Abbasid court. When Imam Reza (A.S.) came to Khorasan, the Caliph’s crown prince assigned me the role of serving him. I became his holiness’s letter writer. Other than the usual name, Arabs have nicknames too. When they want to respect an individual, they use his nickname, not his name. It was interesting to me that he never called his son "Mohammad", he always used his nickname. He said, for instance: “Abu Ja'far, has written a letter to me.” Such mutual respect was not customary among family members during those days, but Imam always talked of his children quite respectfully. His high regard for his son was all the more apparent to me when I learned that his son was still a little child; nevertheless, he mentioned him with great respect in his letters.
Criterion for how to spend for your family
I asked Imam Reza (A.S.) about a criterion for how to spend my income for my family. I needed a model. "The middle way, is the one situated between two extremes" answered Imam. I did not get his point, so I said: "my dear lord, I don’t know what those two extremes are. Can you tell me what you mean?"
“Yes, I know! May God bless you! Don't you know that God has forbidden us from wastefulness and miserliness, and thus has he spoken: “Those who, when they spend, are neither wasteful nor miserly, between that is a just stand” (Surah al-Furqan, verse 67). The just stand means the middle way, between the two extremes.
Do not beat your children!
My son was really bothering me. I wanted to punish him. I thought to myself, I can ask for Imam’s (A.S.) advice. I went to him and complained about my child. Imam said: “Do not beat your child, just do not talk with him; however do not let your sulk be long.”
Accept your brother's excuse!
We had gathered around in one of the meeting held by Imam (A.S.) when a friend started talking about his brother's shortcomings and complained about his behavior to Imam. Imam (A.S.) listened to his complaints and then presented his advice in poetry. Part of the translation of the poem Imam recited is thus: “Accept your brother’s apologies for his guilt / and veil and hide his faults / and be patient with the accusations made by the Ignorant people.”
Sinful disobedience of parents!
Moammer Ibn Khallid said to Imam Reza (A.S.): “should I ask God for my parents’ blessing even if they do not accept the righteous religion?” Imam said: “Pray for them and donate to the charity on their behalf and if they are alive and don’t know the righteous religion, be lenient towards them, because God has forbidden disobedience of parents; disobeying parents will lead to the disobedience of God and the removal of all the gratitude you have expressed to God.”
Don't marry a bad-tempered man!
»Hasan Ibn Bashar Vaaseti« says so about a letter he wrote to Imam Reza (A.S.): I wrote a letter to Imam Reza (A.S.) and told him that one of my relatives has proposed to one of my daughters, but he is a bad tempered man. Imam (A.S.) wrote thus in response: “If he is bad-tempered, don’t marry your daughter to him.”
Emphasis on man’s cleanliness and good looks at home
Having Intimate relationships with the family and the relatives is one of the important ways of growing closer to God. Imam Reza (A.S.) says: “God has bidden you to be pious and to visit your family members and relatives. So he who does not do such, has failed to abide by the codes of virtuosity.” Apart from being clean and well-dressed himself, Imam Reza (A.S.) emphasized on the importance of personal hygiene for every man and asked those who had the means to provide welfare for their families and said: “It is worthy that the man pays more attention to the financial needs of his family so they don’t hope for his death.”
Imam has also advised men to be good-tempered and treat their families well: “On the day of resurrection the closest person to me is he who is more good-tempered and does more good to his family in the world.”
Reward for trying to provide sustenance for one’s family
Islam encourages all Muslims to work and warns them against inactivity and sloth and laziness. Imam Reza (A.S.) considers working for the provision of family needs as valuable as Jihad: “A person who is engaged in the business of providing sustenance for his children and making a living, his oblation is greater than that of those who strive in God’s way. Anyone who does more work so his income becomes sufficient for him and his family will be presented with a reward greater than the reward given to those who struggle in God’s cause.”